Our Cheating Hearts

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Most of us manage to be monogamous most of the time. But most of us also know that adultery is the 'crime' we could imagine ourselves committing. But does being 'faithful' mean the same to everyone? Why DO people have affairs? Using real-life testimony from those who have 'cheated' & those who have been cheated on alongside the most up to date research this book looks at the big questions around love & commitment. Kate Figes shows how in our progressive times monogamy has become the new ideal. Absolute fidelity in sexual love above all now stands as the primary symbol of commitment. But that has created new problems: increasing the allure of the affair exacerbating the need for deceit; making trust harder; & highlighting the shame & the wounds of betrayal. This book lifts the taboos asks the tough questions suggests that we can survive an affair & that it can lead to a better understanding of ourselves & our relationships. Monogamy is possible & many couples manage it either throughout their relationship or for long periods of time. But for the countless others a more honest & humane public debate around the subject of infidelity is essential. Our Cheating Hearts by the author known & respected for charting the emotional territory of relationships is that book.