Most of us go through life with a vision of what the ideal relationship is supposed to be yet too often our longing for a soul mate leads to disappointment & heartbreak. What we see desire or harshly judge in our mate is but a reflection of self Vanzant explains as in IN THE MEANTIME she helps us to break free of our fantasies & view a relationship as an ongoing process of discovery & growth. Whether she is offering practical advice on how to avoid making the same relationship mistakes over & over again or helping us to view the painful end of a relationship as an opportunity to learn & change Iyanla Vanzant as author Patrice Gains has said 'reminds us that every moment is an opportunity to learn & inspires & encourages us to continue our inward daily search'.