If you Sit very Still explores the territory of traumatic loss brutality & the restoration of the human spirit. In 1994 twenty-one years after her unexplained disappearance Lucy Partington's remains were discovered in the basement of 25 Cromwell Street Gloucester. In this powerful & poetic book Marian Partington Lucy's elder sister reclaims Lucy from the status of West victim" & charts her own inspiring narrative of healing. Through deep & fierce engagement with her experience & guided by powerful dreams Marian finds an authentic & compassionate response. She draws on but is not limited to Buddhist & Quaker practices. Her inner work involves a laying bare of what needs to be faced accepted & transformed in order to live with less harm in the wake of human atrocity. This ongoing everyday process of self-exploration & mindful interaction with others leads towards profound inner & outer change & culminates in ten years of restorative justice work in prisons. With a foreword by Marina Cantacuzino Founder of the Forgiveness Project this luminous book offers a way out of our destructive cycles of violence & abuse."