Mother love is often seen as sacred but for many children the relationship is a painful struggle. Using the newest research on human attachment & brain development Terri Apter an internationally acclaimed psychologist & writer unlocks the mysteries of this complicated bond. She showcases the five different types of difficult mother the angry mother the controlling mother the narcissistic mother the envious mother & the emotionally neglectful mother & explains the patterns of behavior seen in each type. Apter also explores the dilemma at the heart of a difficult relationship: why a mother has such a powerful impact on us & why we continue to care about her responses long after we have outgrown our dependence. She then shows how we can conduct an emotional audit on ourselves to overcome the power of the complex feelings a difficult mother inflicts. In the end this book celebrates the great resilience of sons & daughters of difficult mothers as well as acknowledging their special challenges.