The Curse Of Lovely

Product Description

Many people's lives, relationships, careers & wellbeing are blighted by the belief that to be liked, loved & accepted they have to limit themselves to the behaviours they believe are approved of by others. This might mean some or all of the following: always being polite, nice, helpful, charming, fun, making people feel good about themselves, not letting people down, never saying 'no', avoiding conflict & putting others' needs before their own. In her 15 years of clinical experience as a psychologist Jacqui Marson has coined the phrase 'the curse of lovely' to describe this growing trend. Many people would like to be known as lovely, but for a growing number of people it can feel like a curse. They feel unable to put their own needs before those of everyone else, & feel that changing this is not an option. This highly practical & motivational book will show readers how to break curse of lovely to live a more complete, fulfilling life. Contents include: when 'lovely' turns into a curse; the lovely child
- how it all begins; the different shades of lovely
- which one are you?; from curse to gift
- how we can still be lovable & get our needs met; but what do I want
- how to tune in to what your body is telling you; re-evaluating anger; saying 'no' & surviving; how to instigate scary conversations; & how to replace the personal rules that put you at the bottom on the pile.