EVERYONE WORRIES ABOUT BEING JUDGED ONE FOOLISH TWEET CAN DESTROY A CAREER ONE CARELESS IMAGE CAN RUIN A REPUTATION YET JUDGEMENT IS INESCAPABLE; WE CANNOT BE SOCIAL BEINGS WITHOUT JUDGING & BEING JUDGED WE'RE STUCK WITH JUDGEMENT & ALL THE AWKWARDNESS EMBARRASSMENT SHAME GUILT & LONELINESS THAT CAN COME WITH IT Yet all is not lost in this arena of snap verdicts & social misfires In this sensitive & creative book Ziyad Marar reclaims judgement proposing that we need it in order to value ourselves & others; we can't live abundantly without the peaks & troughs of judgement Drawing upon psychology philosophy TV Film poetry & literature Marar reveals a world which takes seriously our need to reach out & connect & one where hope however tentative can blossom There are no easy answers here but there are moments where our judging can become generous & forgiving; moments where the cracks in the world feel like possibilities rather than dead ends moments when the light comes in